Going on your first date? Feeling nervous? Don’t know how to start the ball rolling? Relax! Take a deep breath. Don’t fret. We have all been through the same at some point in our lives.
Covid19 and dating:
We are already in the middle of 2020, witnessing one of the worst pandemics humanity has seen in the 21st century. COVID19 has rewritten the rules and the same can be said about dating. But at the end, whether you are dating online or not, there are some questions you need to ask and determine if you are dating with a like-minded individual.
How to Date a Feminist in 2020
This guide specifically focuses on dating a feminist in 2020! Over the last few years, more and more people have come out openly supporting women in various roles such as politics, economics, military and leadership. This idea is called feminism and dating a feminist certainly won’t be easy in the first place. We list the top 10 questions you need to ask on your first date from a feminist.
But before moving forward, a few rules:
Avoid discussions on religion, political views, and state of economy, etc.
First impression is the last impression. Wear appropriate clothes, have your beard trimmed, get a nice haircut, etc. You get it right?
Society, over the last few years, has started increasingly accepting women’s roles. Don’t talk about anything that may put women in bad light!
Now that you have met your first date, and greeted each other warmly, looking at each other in a nice romantic environment, and there you go! An awkward silence. To make the conversation flow well, we have compiled a list of the top 10 questions to ask on your first date:
How does a typical day look like for you?
Research has shown that in order to be a good speaker, you have to be a good listener. Instead of an awkward silence, go ahead and ask this question and listen patiently. Get to know what they do in their free time, such as painting, dancing, singing, learning courses online.
Ask them how COVID19 impacted their day-to-day life and how they are coping up with the damages. Are they working from home? Is remote working any beneficial for them? You may find something interesting that can get both of you hooked for hours long! This is a great way to start a conversation. Once you hear everything, talk about yourself and how the new normal has impacted your life. What are your hobbies, interests and activities? Etc.
What are some random facts about you?
You asked about their daily routines and may get something to talk about in this question. Ask any fun activity that they enjoy doing? It could be watching that latest Netflix season, or learning a new recipe off of YouTube!
Show your interest in them. Feminists are possessed with their achievements. Don’t agitate them. Instead, encourage what they are doing. You need to get along with them and align your personality.
During the lockdown and quarantine period, people have adopted new hobbies such as reading books. Bring up something on books. Better, be prepared on some of the books and ask a question on what do they like reading. Trust me, they will be blown out of water when they figure out you are an avid reader!
The type of books you share will define your personality, and have a long lasting impact on your first date.
Tell me about your family
A question with indefinite answers! Asking something like “so what do you think about kids” is too strong to hit on your first date! Rather, ask an open-ended question about their family members, siblings, nieces, nephews, and close friends. From their answers, you will eventually get the idea of how close they hold their family.
“What is your vision?” or “What are your dreams”?
An excellent open-ended question! They will talk about their current and future plans, their dreams and what they will be doing to achieve their goals. Why not chimp in your advice? Someone with a vision once said:
“Those who are crazy enough to change the world, are the ones who end up doing it.” Steve Jobs
Who knows the crazy vision your date has and how it may impact the world in the long run! Appreciate them for at least having a vision and a broad plan on achieving something.
5. “Would You Rather…?”
We call these the “scenario-based” questions. To test the intelligence of a potential candidate, companies often use such tests to determine a possible outcome and make a sound decision on hiring the right person.
The “Would you rather…?” questions are ideal in breaking the silence and getting deep, silly, or even extremely wise answers. Would you rather… stay and work from home or go back to the office? Would you rather...live in the countryside away from the hustle and bustle of cities, or enjoy the views of skyscrapers from your apartment window?
Some common questions:
- Would you rather stay in or go out of bed?
- Would you rather do it yourself or ask for outside help?
- After a bad day would you rather have hot or cold drinks?
You get the idea, right?
- “Know Any Good Jokes?”
You will quickly get a glimpse of someone’s sense of humor if they can share something that made them laugh. Plus, giggling together at a stupid “dad-joke” is another way to break the ice and help you feel more comfortable with the other person.
6.”What’s Something That Bugs You?”
Everyone has pet peeves. Talk about things that get on your nerves. Ask your date what bothers them. Are they generally laid back and easy going, or do they tend to be tense and easily stressed? Finding out pet peeves can give you a better understanding of some of the things that make a person tick, and is a good way to be open and honest with each other from the get-go.
7.”What’s the Most Embarrassing Thing You Can Remember That’s Happened to You?”
See if they’re comfortable sharing some of their most memorable embarrassing moments. Talking about our awkward moments shows humility, vulnerability, and a sense of humor — is it important to you that your date can laugh at themselves once in a while?
- “What’s Your Favorite Place on Earth?”
Do they have a favorite vacation destination? Do they know of a cool hiking trail hiding away behind the river? Do they have a secret place where they can go to relax, unwind, and escape the world? These questions give others a glimpse into our “happy place” and allows them to see what kinds of settings make us feel we can be most like ourselves.
- “Who Are the Special People in Your Life?”
Ask your date to talk about their siblings, best friends, grandparents, or even their pets. A good way to see someone’s character is to pay attention to how they talk about other people. This question also shows you which people have had the biggest impact on your date’s life and who has helped shape them into the person they are today. It’s so beautiful to listen to someone describe someone they love; one of my favorite things in this world is watching that little light catch in someone’s eyes when they tell me a story about a friend or loved one.
- “What’s Something You’re Proud of?”
All humility aside — are they proud of their accomplishments? Do they call up their mom as soon as they find out about a new promotion? Ask them which decisions they have made that they are truly happy about. Ask them when the last time they won an award was. This will help you determine some of the things they truly value and some of the things they’ve worked hard for.
So, whether you’re completely freaking out about that first date with your crush or just need some ideas for ways to break the ice with a Tinder match that you’re meeting for the first time, these questions should definitely help get you started. These are some positive ways to get comfortable with someone and reveal what kind of connection you have with them. You never know until you ask!